RAWR

That’s a difficult situation. On one hand, you shouldn’t be snooping around your partner’s phone or emails, with or without their permission, for the fact of trying to see if they are cheating.  Fear and paranoia create a bad relationship  and usually leads to people being controlling and resentful.  On the other hand, obviously if you have suspicions that the person is cheating, you shouldn’t just pretend all is well either.

This is my advice then, you need to ask yourself do I need him to prove his loyalty because I am insecure?  And if he is proving his loyalty, then how are you going to prove yours in return?  

And if the person has done actions that make you suspicious of cheating, then I think you should confront them about the way it makes you feel and your fears, but never accuse them of cheating.

If you can’t trust your partner, then you don’t need to be with them.  And if its that you just can’t trust any partner due to your own insecurities and paranoia, then you don’t need to be in a relationship till you can learn to deal with your own issues.

I think it is hard depending on where you look.  I think the worst place to look for gay platonic friends are gay clubs, profile websites such as gay.com, manhunt, bear411 ect, and it is also bad for phone apps like grindr, growlr, scruff for examples.  Most people on there are looking for sex.  However, you still can find actual friends there, but it helps to have in your profile “not looking for hook-ups” and “looking for actual friends to hang out with and not feel the need for sex to be involved.”  

Some good places to find friends are usually gay social clubs, which can be found by doing google searches with this criteria:  ”gay social *city name here* events” or look for your local LGBT center’s website.  They usually show the different gay groups.  

Good Luck!

I recommend 6 months to a year of slowly spending the night with each other for longer periods of time.  Maybe start out with just every weekend.  Then maybe 5 days out of the week.  Then take breaks when needed.  Eventually, get to the point where one of you can move a few essentials into the others home, like a few changes of clothes, computer, ect.  Then, after 6 months to a year, if all is good, maybe then its time to get a place together, or move in permanently. 

Thanks man.  I got them all at diff places.  The boots I got in NYC at a local shop.  However, I saw them being sold at hot topic.  They were $110.  The arm straps I got next were around $30 together. They were being sold at a bear run called Bear hunt.  But I know that guy travels to events, cuz I ran into him at DC pride.  I also later got a harness from him after I won Mr Bear Hunt, which costs $120.  The vest and chaps were “given” to my by a friend who said we would discus a price, but every time I ask him, he says dont worry about it! <3 

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You should come to PAX and Amazement as well ;)

Also in Orlando!  Get out of here!!  J/K, though I do have a bunch of friends that live there.  We used to go there for Christmas every year before the economy collapsed and money got tight.  So I guess we are way over due for a visit.  Next time we go, I will let you know :D